Tips for dog training or any pet and human bonding.
Good Day to You,
This isn’t another animal training tip from an “expert”.
This “old dog” wants to share something that just gets under my fur and needs to be said. It has to do with our ability to have patience with our pets.
Especially when training our puppy, getting used to any rescued animal and learning how best to help our special family members adjust to us, while we learn to adjust to them.
THIS IS DAY ONE – PET COUNT – EVERY DAY – IT SHOULD BE OUR COUNT TOO
Our pet’s ability to “GIVE us what we want”, totally depends on our being able to lose the whole attitude of TAKING our time.
We need to be GIVING OUR LOVE, without being concerned about our time.
TIME doesn’t matter to our pet.
When we “consider the big picture”, our precious time with our pet is too short.
“Good things happen in their own good time.”
WHY NOT MAKE IT QUALITY TIME?
“Giving is better than Receiving”
MUTUAL RESPECT BUILT THROUGH TRUST AND REGARD:
Our pets need to TRUST us and I truly believe that they understand when we have regard for them.
To me, “regard” means the same as:
Being a GENTLE, yet strong Alpha
Always caring about our pet’s WELLBEING & FEELINGS
Nope, not using a “dictionary”, just my gut.
How do you behave when you feel insecure? Can you think clearly? Do you make mistakes and do things you otherwise wouldn’t, given a chance to calm down?
If you don’t have REGARD for your pet, they will not feel secure.
Can we really feel secure around the people we love if we don’t feel their regard for us?
Our pets are every bit as sensitive as we are, sometimes more.
Yelling and being overly forceful just doesn’t work when our pet constantly refuses to do what we want.
GIVING NEEDED TIME and BEING GENTLE while OBSERVING how our pet is reacting to the situation makes all the difference.
When we MUST be the Alpha, be GENTLE
Yes, I know, sometimes we are forced into actions we don’t want to do, but can’t help.
Oh boy do I ever know about that!
Try to stay calm (even if your fur is ruffled)
Be “matter of fact”, but open to your pet’s suggestions (when possible)
As gently as possible, be the Alpha
Sometimes that’s just life
When that “tough time” is over, stop being the “Alpha”
I just do not agree with always “being in charge”.
How many “close” relationships do you have with someone who is always trying to lead, be the “boss” and doesn’t try to understand and respect your feelings?
Yes, our pets look to us for guidance, but that doesn’t mean they HAVE to always follow us. When they follow us from room to room, they WANT to.
We need to HEAL OUR BOND, because our best friend just got forced into a situation they didn’t want to be in.
Think about it, how would you be feeling right now, in your pet’s place?
Our pet may not “hold a grudge” (debatable), but you can bet that confidence may be lacking right now. Even if they are now obedient and not showing it.
TIME TO GIVE YOUR TIME (and give of yourself):
When the situation is over, follow the lead of your pet:
How is your pet reacting when approached?
Needs space (backs away, wants to leave the room) – That’s fine, leave them be.
Receptive to attention – Provide love, playtime, just good bonding as soon as possible.
Don’t forget to check on your pet when giving them space.
Even if they still need space, I’ll just bet a nice favorite treat, toy or both could really help right now. Then see what happens in a little while.
Eventually, your pet will come around, feeling more secure and more receptive.
Now we’re bonding on our pet’s terms, as it should be.
The more traumatized our pet seems, the more we need to reinforce that:
TRUST & REGARD
Getting good results depends just as much on our dedication to our bonding, as the amount of time we GIVE for the training process.
In fact, we need be sure to give enough time for success, even allowing our pet to tell us when the training has worked.
WHEN BONDING & TRAINING WORKS, OUR PET WILL SHOW US
Yes, they will show us, by starting to ask to go out on their own and anticipating what we want before we ask in other ways.
We also see it in the wonderful HAPPY FACE they show us, tail wagging.
Showing pets our appreciation for their good behavior (with or without treats) helps make it fun and rewarding for everyone.
Our special friend isn’t interested in how many times we repeat, repeat, and repeat.
We can build trust and regard by giving it first.
Don’t force it, or be pressured, that won’t help either of you.
If “now” isn’t a good time, because your pet isn’t ready yet, that’s fine.
Try again later, when you are both more relaxed.
PERHAPS A LITTLE PLAYTIME OR CUDDLE INSTEAD?
We need to pay attention when our pet is stressing, anticipating a situation causing stress.
Try to find ways that help reduce the stress. Our pet doesn’t have to “talk” in order for us to be able to help.
Even if we can’t figure out exactly “why” the stress is happening, we can usually find a way to redirect. Do a web search, watch animal training videos, or try reading related articles.
We can always start by ASKING OUR VET.
Removing the stress first and substituting something positive will make a huge difference. The expert trainers don’t call it “positive reinforcement” for nothing!
Try to find your comfort zone with your pet. Even if the training has to wait until you find it.
Make finding your mutual comfort zone your first priority.
There is no such thing as “spoiling” your pet, only confusing them. “Killing your pet with kindness”, by overfeeding and ignoring unacceptable behavior will only make a situation worse and perhaps create a bigger problem.
Don’t give up trying, just don’t stick with something that doesn’t work. Keep trying for the desired result, but keep trying new ways to get there. Take advantage of positive moments and happy play times to find new ways to try.
Only you can build trust between you and your pet.
The REGARD we show to our pets, when training, bringing them home for the first time and always, makes for a richer and closer BOND.
The quality time spent with our pets can easily become some of our most precious memories.
GIVING OF OURSELVES WHILE BONDING WITH OUR PET ENRICHES OUR LIVES.
Getting helpful suggestions has never been easier. We can use Online Search to ask for an answer to nearly every question and find possible solutions.
Applying the right solution can be challenging.
SUDDENLY THERE IT IS!!!
Our pet has that “look at me” look and it’s all worth it.
Always GIVE your time, love and understanding.
Strive to be patient with our pets, remembering all the dedication and love they give to us.
The quality of our mutual bond is worth it.
Then enjoy the QUALITY TIME you share together making memories.
Because now you have MUTUAL RESPECT, and that’s what really counts.
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